Memoir or Novel? 8 Issues to Think About Before Writing Your Own Story
I truly believe that novels and memoirs are ideal ways in which to tell your personal story. The choice is up to you. Here are eight advantages of each.
As the novel consultant, I am often asked how a writer should tell his or her story. I work with clients in both novel and memoir, using similar structural techniques to develop a compelling story. I truly believe that both forms are ideal ways in which to tell your personal story. The choice is up to you.
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Only recently did I realize that my genre jumping work was proof of this. During a conference interview, Mary Manzel, Director of the California Center for the Book, asked what would develop from my NY Times Modern Love essay. She had read all of my books, essays and scripts – my entire ouvre. I hadn’t realized I had one, until she pointed out a pattern. Beginning with Welcome to Club Mom, a nonfiction book, “I Hate Everybody”, an essay for the infamous Mommy Wars, and my recent literary thriller, What A Mother Knows, I’ve been exploring the challenges of modern motherhood for twenty years.
Essentially, she tapped into my method of using creative nonfiction as a springboard for fiction. To be honest, I have written a memoir, but it was painful for family members, so I put it in a drawer. I never regretted it, because I fictionalized some of the important themes in my next novel. In fact, when I faced mortality recently, I could honestly say that I would be satisfied if What A Mother Knows was my last book. Here’s why: all the important ideas I have about love are woven into this literary thriller. Go figure!
If you are torn between memoir and novel, here are eight advantages of each:
NOVEL
Since every element is designed to express an emotional truth…..
- It may be easier emotionally to write.
- You don’t have to remember everything that really happened.
- You can rewrite history.
- You can include events you did not witness.
- You can protect yourself and others.
- You can create a more vivid story.
- You can explore personal issues on a larger framework.
- You can create characters and events, expand real ones, and magnify themes.
MEMOIR
Since every event is revealed to express the true emotion…
- You can explore the real truth behind what happened.
- You may find it easier to tell a real story than to make one up.
- The writing can be a prompt and profound understanding of your life.
- You can frame the story dramatically to focus on a particular theme.
- You can shape the story by expanding or compressing time.
- You can use more internal narrative to reflect on events.
- The story may gain meaning as time passes.
- You can write about one event now and write more memoirs later.
If you’re wondering whether to tell you story in memoir or novel form, there is no wrong answer. The choice is up to you!
Leslie Lehr explores the duality of today’s women to navigate a new path between sexy and sacred. Salma Hayek is developing Leslie’s critically acclaimed new memoir, A Boob’s Life, into a comedy series for HBO Max. A prize-winning writer, Leslie’s books include What A Mother Knows, a Target Recommended Read, Wife Goes On, and 66 Laps, winner of the Pirate’s Alley Faulkner Prize. Her nonfiction books include Welcome to Club Mom, Club Grandma, excerpted on FisherPrice.com, and Wendy Bellissimo: Nesting, featured on Oprah. Leslie’s personal essays have appeared in the New York Times Modern Love column (narrated by Katie Couric on NPR), HuffPost, Yourtango, and in anthologies including Mommy Wars, The Honeymoon’s Over, and On Becoming Fearless.
She wrote the original screenplays for the indie romantic thriller, Heartless, and the comedy-drama, Club Divorce. Leslie has also worked in film production, including Prince’s Sign ‘O the Times, Charles Bukowski’s Barfly, and the cult thriller, Witchboard. She has a BA from the USC School of Cinematic Arts where she won a Student Emmy, and an MFA from Antioch. A breast cancer survivor, she is “Chemo Chick” on Sickofpink.com. Leslie is the Novel Consultant for Truby Writers Studio and taught for 10 years in the Writer’s Program at UCLA. Leslie is a judge for the WFWA debut novel contest, a member of PEN, the Authors Guild, WGA, Women In Film, the ACLU, and The Women’s Leadership Council of L.A. Leslie Lehr has two daughters, two cats, and lives with her husband, John Truby, as close to the beach as possible in southern California.
