Skip to main content

My Writer Success Story Began With Getting Over Myself

Debut author Christina Wyman discusses how getting out of her own way led to her authorial success.

At 40 years old, I’d been writing essays for ten years when I nearly gave up on trying to meet my writing and publishing goals. I’m an academic and researcher and while I’d achieved modest success landing unpaid bylines in obscure niche, regional and trade outlets, most of my submissions went ignored after I shot them off into the black hole of the Internet (otherwise known as editors’ inboxes).

(Keeping the Writing Faith: Defining & Redefining Success to Maintain Your Motivation)

But writing is in my bones, and despite my frustrations, giving up didn’t seem like an option. I had, however, grown weary of donating my labor to outlets that were more than happy to interpret payment in terms of exposure, shares, and likes on their social media channels. Exposure, shares, and likes are a nice ego boost, but they don’t pay the rent.

Still, to say that I felt defeated is an understatement. While writing essays, I’d also been working on a children’s book. On social media, I'd watch other authors announce their successes and feel sick with envy: The Young Adult writer 10 years my junior who scored a two-book deal, or the freelance essayist promoting her third piece with the New York Times.

I’d always prided myself on being a supportive colleague—others’ successes, I knew, were hard-fought and hard-earned and deserved only positive acknowledgement and praise. So I’d honor their good news with a pit of envy occupying my innards like a jagged pebble. I wondered what these authors knew that I didn’t.

In darker moments, I assumed that there was a simple explanation: Perhaps I was a talent-less hack and not cutout for the sort of publishing goals I was pursuing. Most of all, I wondered whether I’d ever have my own good news to share.

Upping the Ante

As the pandemic closed in, I became tired of my pity parties and decided to up the ante. I knew that if I wanted to sell an essay to an outlet that more than a handful of people actually read, I needed to learn to crack the code. It was time to go back to school. Last summer, I decided to take an essay- and pitch-writing class with New York Times bestselling author Susan Shapiro.

At that point, I’d been a teacher for 14 years at both the middle school and college levels. I’d graded scores of essays and even got my students published in some of the same outlets my own writing had appeared in. And yet, nothing could have prepared me for the difficulties I faced when taking a class with a pro.

I saw with fresh eyes how my essays were trite and lacked perspective and how my pitches lacked clarity and appeal. I was equal parts humbled and irritated by the experience. I considered dropping the class midway through.

My Writer Success Story Began With Getting Over Myself

Getting Over Myself

Shapiro’s course, however, was not just an education in how to get your writing published. It was an eight-week lesson in how to get over yourself. I’ll never forget when, early on, she told stories about how hard she’d worked to get her essays out into the world. She was always forthcoming about how much writing, rewriting, submitting, and resubmitting she’d had to do.

“You can be right or you can be published,” Shapiro had said. Her highly regarded book Byline Bible also speaks to the level of dedication required to make it to the big leagues. “The harder I work, the luckier I get,” she writes.

And still, after weeks of writing essays and pitches that didn’t quite make the mark, I once again became sorely discouraged. On a whim, I began writing about how I was born with a severe overbite and deformed jaw—an orthodontic condition known as a Class II Malocclusion and skeletal imbalance.

For our last class together, I submitted an essay about how the requirement to wear a mask had given me a break from the body dysmorphia that plagued me for thirty years. This piece became my “humiliation” essay, Shapiro’s hallmark assignment with which she encourages her students to reveal their most embarrassing secret.

I read my essay to the class and admitted how, thanks to my skeletal condition, masks allowed me to thoroughly enjoy the freedom from wondering what other people were thinking about the lower half of my face. Five weeks later, my essay, I am insecure about my face. For me, masks are liberating, was published in the Washington Post. It was my first piece published in a major outlet and the first time I’d been paid for my writing.

Success Operates on Its Own Timeline

Within days, an editor with Farrar, Straus and Giroux (a division of Macmillan) saw my essay and contacted me to discuss my writerly aspirations. Exactly five months after my piece was published, I landed an agent and a book deal. I am now officially a writer for children. My debut novel, Jawbreaker, follows a seventh grader with a craniofacial anomaly that’s caught the attention of her school bullies—including her own sister. Publication is set for the spring of 2023.

After considerable rejection, landing an agent and a book deal was something that I never thought would happen for me. Taking Shapiro’s class, learning to get over myself, and revealing my most humiliating secret in essay form had changed my life. Since then, my essays have appeared in The Guardian, Marie Claire, ELLE, and other high profile publications.

I continue to set lofty publishing goals, and am no longer discouraged by rejection, hard feedback and silence. It took me ten years to learn that success operates on its own timeline; getting out of my own way and becoming a student again was the first step. 

Blogging 101

A key to success for any writer is having an online presence. Blogging is one way to share your expertise and—at the same time—build an author platform. Don’t know how to start a blog? Not sure what to focus on? Don’t fret! This online writing workshop will guide you through the entire blogging process—how to create and setup a blog, where to start, and much more. You’ll learn how to attract readers and how to market your writing. Start a successful blog today and get noticed by editors and publishers.

Click to continue.

Writer's Digest Best Everything Agent Websites for Writers 2022

Writer's Digest Best Everything Agent Websites for Writers 2022

Here are the top websites by and about agents as identified in the 24th Annual 101 Best Websites from the May/June 2022 issue of Writer's Digest.

Ashley Poston: On Love, Death, and Books

Ashley Poston: On Love, Death, and Books

Author Ashley Poston discusses how she combined her love of ghost stories, romance, and books into her new romance novel, The Dead Romantics.

Choosing Which Movements To Put in Your Fight Scene (FightWrite™)

Choosing Which Movements To Put in Your Fight Scene (FightWrite™)

Trained fighter and author Carla Hoch discusses how much of a fight's details to actually put into a story, and how even with fight scenes sometimes less is more.

5 Research Tips for Writing Historical Fiction, by Piper Huguley

5 Research Tips for Writing Historical Fiction

Author Piper Huguley shares her five research tips for writing historical fiction that readers love and writers love as well.

Announcing 40 More Plot Twist Prompts for Writers!

Announcing 40 More Plot Twist Prompts for Writers!

Learn more about 40 Plot Twist Prompts for Writers, Volume 2: ALL NEW Writing Ideas for Taking Your Stories in New Directions, by Writer's Digest Senior Editor Robert Lee Brewer. Discover fun and interesting ways to move your stories from beginning to end.

Interviewing Tips | Tyler Moss

Interviewing 101: Tips for Writers

Interviewing sources for quotes or research will be part of any writer's job. Here are tips to make the process as smooth and productive as possible.

Plot Twist Story Prompts: Eliminate Threat

Plot Twist Story Prompts: Eliminate Threat

Every good story needs a nice (or not so nice) turn or two to keep it interesting. This week, have a character work to eliminate a threat.

4 Tips for Writing Gothic Horror

4 Tips for Writing Gothic Horror

Gothic horror and its many subgenres continues to increase in popularity. Here, author Ava Reid shares 4 tips on writing gothic horror.

Lucy Clarke: On the Power of Creativity

Lucy Clarke: On the Power of Creativity

Novelist Lucy Clarke discusses how a marathon of writing led to a first draft in just 17 days for her new psychological thriller, One of the Girls.