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Listen to this, it’s a true story:
A few years ago while at university, I was approached by the president of one of my societies to be the general secretary for the next year. I didn’t want to do it. I really didn’t want to do it. I said no several times. It was exactly like your conversation with your piano teacher, Cindy. She told me I had to do it as I would be bringing so much to the council and they needed me. Major guilt trip. So I relented and said I’d do it, knowing all the time that it would be a bad idea. You know me, I can’t stand BS and in a council like this there was sure to be a lot of BS. I couldn’t see them liking me either.
So after most of a hellish year in which I was disgruntled and exasperated and irritated to no end, I called a council meeting and resigned. They guessed that I would do that (because I’d tried it once at Christmas and stayed when they said they’d do better) so they brought me flowers and chocolate to bribe me to stay. Needless to say, I was even further insulted and really let them have it. I told them everything I thought of them and then some. Then I walked out and didn’t look back.
I was told later on that people started crying when I left the room. For the rest of the year the council fell apart and the society practically disbanded. I was sorry to hear that as it was never my intention to hurt the society itself. I suppose in a way my presence forced the council to put in effort and when I left they just gave it up.
And the moral of the story is this: Sometimes we make commitments we know are bad but you never know when someone is going to bribe you with chocolate. So stick around and play that piano. I bet they’ll love you.