My sister had a miscarriage a few years back. I tried to console her by offering advice, saying nice platitudes like ‘time will heal this, youll have another baby.’ What I discovered is that a grieving person does not want to hear a bunch of flowery words. I received this first hand when my sister-in-law died unexpectedly earlier this year. From personal experience on both sides of the fence, I think the most important thing is to be there for the person. Be there by listening. Ask if they would like to talk about how they feel, and then listen. Really listen from the heart and don’t feel like you have to come up with some ‘cliché’ in return. They’ll know by your face, body language, and perhaps an afterward hug, that you really care. When we really love from the heart, it goes a long way to help one another heal.