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Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby jaus tail » Wed Oct 24, 2012 10:38 pm

Hello,

I like to imagine a lot and stay in my own world which is what most writers and creative people do. I've often been told that 'you're always lost in your own world, daydreaming about some forbidden paradize...'

I don't like to socialize, parties are a nightmare for me and I remember thinking hard for an excuse to avoid family functions as a child. My question is, are all writers introvert and is introvert just a fancy word for being afraid?

Most writers have a 'God-like' feeling, as if we create a world and it makes us feel powerful. Do we not pay attention to the real world because the fictional world is more exciting or do we create the fictional world to escape from reality?

Like Batman once said 'he's strong mentally, it means he must be weak physically...' replace mentally with 'with imagination' and physically with 'practically'

I recently read this article about virtual friends and how it affects social behaviour. I argued with a couple of fellow members here over my posts and critiques, I don't think I'd ever do that in real life, I'll get intimidated very easily.

Does anyone else also feel that writers create their own world just to escape the reality and that introvert is just a fancy word for afraid??
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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby rosebud » Wed Oct 24, 2012 11:33 pm

I used to think that was true but have since found out that getting out and observing people and engaging them in conversation has opened my eyes to new character traits that I might otherwise never have considered. It took me baby steps to get back in a social mode. Now I feel very comfortable looking people in the eye and sharing a smile. It's brought me a lot of positive feedback and information for my writing.

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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby jaus tail » Wed Oct 24, 2012 11:44 pm

True and it is very helpful. I think to write, one must meet new people and visit different places, like step out of one's comfort zone. But if you're always out of your comfort zone, don't you get tired...I get so tired when I have to socialize, shouldn't it be easy and if it's not then maybe it's not meant to be friendship?
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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby rosebud » Wed Oct 24, 2012 11:58 pm

Stepping out of my comfort zone even gives me a sense of panic sometimes but I attempt to follow through with it as long as I possible. Most of the time the panic goes away after a few minutes and I walk away with a feeling of accomplishment. The positive feedback allows me to make further efforts and each time it gets a little easier.

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Postby LilliesCarol » Thu Oct 25, 2012 7:50 am

Had it not been for my socializing almost all of my adult life, I would not have the wealth of characters, circumstances, or scenarios to call upon. However, I also cherish my alone time, as it gives me the opportunity to think about life, people, love, 'godly' things and commune with nature. Don't be afraid to get out there and meet people, that's how you grow in knowledge and then be able to use your inner wisdom to write good stories. Enjoy life and all that it has to offer. There is so much out there and so many people to meet and enjoy.
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And the song from beginning to end, I found again in the heart of a friend
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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby jaus tail » Thu Oct 25, 2012 10:28 am

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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby updog » Thu Oct 25, 2012 11:38 am

No, introvert is not another name for afraid. Introverts are more energized when they're alone, extroverts gain energy from being around other people. What extroverts need to understand is that the feeling they get when they're alone with nothing to do and nobody to talk to, that anxiousness and feeling that they'll simply die of boredom if they can't get out and talk to someone NOW, that's the way introverts feel when they're at a party. We feel we'll die if we can't get some alone time NOW! ha,ha.

Introverts aren't necessarily shy either. They just appear shy because they're quiet when they're in crowds. Usually, they're quietly observing, which I always thought was a good quality for a writer to have. How can you understand other people if you never shut up long enough to listen to them? :mrgreen:

Anyway, it's not fear. That's just what extroverts want you to believe. But put an extrovert and an introvert in solitary confinement for a month, and we'll see who's afraid. :lol:
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Re: Are All Wriers Introvert..

Postby Laycrew » Thu Oct 25, 2012 12:20 pm

I have told my husband that I truly have no desire to be social and if I am stuck at home all week I am actually a very happy camper. But that rarely happens. I don't think introverts are afraid. I am wildly introverted but find myself in huge social settings all the time that make me uncomfortable. But I do better in a large group of people if nobody knows me. I don't know why it makes a difference but it does.

I think some introverts and writers are something I have always called 'big feelers' but I discovered a better word for what I might be is called being an Empath. Actually a girl that lived with us sent me a link saying she thought it sounded like me and when I read it, I had to agree. I think what happens for me is I am wildly senstive to all emotions in social settings. It is terribly overwhelming but you can't really tell that is what's going on. I have always felt overly sensitive to everything around me. Jaus Tail, you seem to describe the same thing because it is exhausting. I also do deal with a lot of social anxiety as well. Which is somewhat fear based but I think it is triggered by absorbing so much more of what is going on around you than the typical person in the room. You should google empath to see if that describes you. I think the sensitivity creates stronger writing. Escaping to a world of our own making helps make this world easier to be in.

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Postby updog » Thu Oct 25, 2012 12:37 pm

Laycrew, that is it exactly! The oversensitivity to other people's emotions thing. One time a bunch of people walked into my kitchen, and I glanced at them and noticed that my son-in-law seemed a bit 'off' compared to his usual self. Took me all of 3 seconds to see that. I asked him if he wasn't feeling well, and he said he wasn't. His wife (my daughter) said, "How did you know that? I didn't even know that and I'm his wife." I couldn't imagine how she DIDN'T see that. It was so obvious! I concluded that she was so self absorbed she never noticed anything but what SHE was feeling. Ha! But I think it's just the difference in the way our brains work. I pick up on body language and stuff that she misses.
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