Call me Mrs., or Ms, or just plain Dorothy ...

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Re: Call me Mrs., or Ms, or just plain Dorothy ...

Postby cynicalwanderer » Thu Jun 23, 2016 2:08 pm

One apparent convention I've noticed in many novels (and this habit has crept into mine) is the practice of calling male characters by their surname and females by their first. Perhaps it's done differently in genres other than the ones I read (mostly mystery, SF, and thrillers), but it seems fairly prevalent to the point that it would seem strange to see a female char referred to by surname only, whereas to do so to a male seems perfectly normal.
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Re: Call me Mrs., or Ms, or just plain Dorothy ...

Postby Carly Berg » Thu Jun 23, 2016 9:38 pm

I agree, cynical.
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Re: Call me Mrs., or Ms, or just plain Dorothy ...

Postby devildogwhite » Fri Jun 24, 2016 4:14 pm

Honestly, I think it's meant to be more respectful. I was in the Marine Corps for near a decade, and you would never refer to someone by their first name because it was considered disrespectful. We also didn't use Mr, or Mrs, and if the person was rated higher than you, you would add their rank. I.E. Sergeant Brown or something like that. It actually annoys me more when I see articles that only refer to people by their first names, rather than last, but I guess my experiences have been different than most peoples.
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