Should Sex Be in Your Novel?

Should Sex Be in Your Novel? If you write romance or erotica, then, of course, the answer is yes. For children books, it’s a definite no and questionable in Y.A. and religious books. But what about the other genres like historical fiction, mystery, suspense/thriller, fantasy, science fiction, and even memoir? The fact is that no truer words were spoken than “sex sells.” A look at the longest running best sellers is proof. Fifty Shades of Gray didn’t make the list for the terrific writing, and The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, while a great thriller, the readers talked about the violent rape and victim’s revenge that sent them in droves to buy the book.

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Column by Susan Klaus, author of fantasy and thrillers. Her thriller,
Secretariat Reborn, published by Oceanview was released in Oct, 2013.
The sequel, Shark Fin Soup, comes out in August, 2014. Most of her
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the host and co-producer of the web radio show, The Authors Connection,
with 18 million listeners in 148 countries and is the president and founder
of the Sarasota Authors Connection club with 230 members. She has an
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Sex is also part of the human condition, as natural as breathing, eating, and sleeping. For an author to exclude it entirely from his novel is not only cheating himself but also the reader. A healthy protagonist who doesn’t at least consider it comes off as unrealistic, a comic strip hero. So if the opportunity arises, sex should be in a novel even if it’s a subtle glance and insinuation, a tender kiss and romance, a steamy encounter, or as bad as a brutal assault. Sex gives the characters credibility, an opportunity to show their confidence or insecurity, their passion, jealous, joy, disappointment, or twisted thoughts. In the end, they betray their diverse humanity. The story then becomes equally character and plot driven, making it believable and interesting.

I’m sure some authors, agents and publishers will disagree with me about having sex in a novel but this is what I have learned from querying my readers. They want their emotional strings pulled, and sex can be the driving vehicle. It portrays the selfish, vindictive partner we love to hate, the rejected, down trodden lover, the wanting, having, or heartbreak of a relationship, or the euphoria of two soul-mates finally connecting. Think The Thorn Birds, the priest finally giving in to the girl on the beach. Every woman with a pulse climaxed after wading through that long story.

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Another thing, readers can imagine a family’s sorrow with a murder victim, but few have actually experienced this dreaded dilemma. But most of us can relate to sex, the love and loss. A subplot with sexual tension brings life to the story and gives characters their character. Of course, the decision of how tame or graphic the scene can sometimes fall to the publisher.

No, I’m not a romance author but write in two different genres, fantasy/sci-fi and thriller/suspense and would never rule out sex in my stories. There might be pros and cons on this subject, but it’s something to consider when writing your next novel.


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3 thoughts on “Should Sex Be in Your Novel?

  1. k1ypp

    Interesting angles and thoughts on sex in our writing. Writing it into our stories does make the characters more human, be it fiction or non-fiction. In my book, Three Hundred Zeroes: Lessons of the Heart on the Appalachian Trail, there were plenty of opportunities to write it into the story, but I did want to cover a very broad audience, including the YA’s, so I didn’t put much in.
    No matter how lightly you treat the subject, there will be detractors. In one of my book’s reviews a reader complained that I joked about being “celibate” on the hike. I referred back to that comment later in the book and had some fun with it, but that reader wasn’t amused.
    Bottom line: if it works for you, write it in. You did a masterful job of it in your three books and I commend you and recommend your work to those looking for a really good read.

  2. chord0

    As a female or a person in general, I enjoy sex in for example novels, etc. But, I don’t enjoy reading books about rape, the romance of being loved is much more pleasant to read about. As long as the sex is not too graphic, so it leaves something to our imagination, it makes the story a lot more exciting and fun to read.

  3. vrundell

    Agreed. Sometimes the sex is over-the-top crazy in-your-face slippery hot mess, and other times it’s a “Baby, grab a condom” fade-to-black. I really enjoy the stories that match “heat” with “character”.

    In erotica, I have an expectation for gratuitous sex, but even if I’m reading YA romance I expect there to be at very least a discussion about some type of physical relationship. It is natural for attracted couples–of any age–to have some inclination toward the physical.

    In middle grade, maybe it’s just noticing that the other sex doesn’t suffer ‘cooties’, and tween books may have characters longing for a first kiss, or remarking about holding hands fir a partner for the first time. In YA, many times there are clear flirtations and discussions regarding “Experience”–or lack there of. There is an elemental joy in physical connection, and there is misery in the lack/loss of that connection. To deny those emotions in one’s writing leaves the story somewhat sterile.

    For crying out loud, there was no graphic sex in Pride and Prejudice, and yet, the banter, flirtations, and a few passion filled kisses all telegraph the emotional-physical connection being forged between Elizabeth and Darcy. Without this romantic plotline the book would be flat–the relationships sterile. No one believes these two firebrands will have a chaste marriage, do they?

    In Divergent, the attraction between Tris and Four is clear. They are young, yet responsible. Their physical connections are what help each of these characters survive. The same is true of Hunger Games. We love these characters because we can experience their capacity to love and the sacrifices they make to protect those whom they love. I don’t need Peeta to strip Katniss and tie her to the bed, but I do need to believe that he will pour every ounce of his heart into keeping her alive.

    Finding the heart of your character will tell you what type of physical relationships the character needs to be well-rounded and ‘human’. Sex is part of life. It should be part of fiction. How it is incorporated in a story is a creative decision, but ignoring it does a disservice to your character, and your story.


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