7 Things I’ve Learned So Far, by Pamela Sherwood

This is a recurring column I’m calling “7 Things I’ve Learned So Far,” where writers (this installment written by romance writer Pamela Sherwood) at any stage of their career can talk about writing advice and instruction as well as how they possibly got their book agent — by sharing seven things they’ve learned along their writing journey that they wish they knew at the beginning.

GIVEAWAY: Pamela is excited to give away a free copy of her novel to a random commenter. Comment within 2 weeks; winners must live in Canada/US to receive the book by mail. You can win a blog contest even if you’ve won before. (UPDATE: KathyTrueman won.)



Pamela Sherwood is the author of WALTZ WITH A STRANGER
(Sourcebooks Casablanca, Dec. 2012), her debut romance, of which
Romantic Times Book Review said, “Readers will be enchanted.” Pamela
grew up in a family of teachers and taught college-level literature and
writing courses for several years before turning to writing full time.
She holds a doctorate in English literature, specializing in the Romantic
and Victorian periods, eras that continue to fascinate her and provide her
with countless opportunities for virtual time travel. She lives in Southern
California. Visit her at pamelasherwood.com.



1. Know when to let go. We’ve all heard about the hazards of sending your manuscript out too soon, before it’s properly polished, edited, etc. It’s also possible to let your fears paralyze you into not sending it out at all. When you start fiddling with your work just to fiddle with it, dithering over the placement of punctuation marks or what not, it’s time to move on to the next stage, find that agent or publisher you want to query, and hit that “SEND” button!

2. Do your homework.  There are tons of online and offline resources to help you find agents and editors to handle your work. Take the time to research the most likely prospects, keep a record of their submission policies, and follow their guidelines to the letter when you submit to them. Do the same if they request material from you, and if they send it back with suggestions for revision/improvement, take those suggestions seriously. Even if they ultimately pass on your work, they were interested enough to consider how it might be made better and more saleable. Thank them for their time before you move on.

3. Spread the net wide. Once you have your list of prospects, don’t limit yourself to only your top five “dream literary agents.” The agent who believes in you and your work may be further down the list. Or possibly not even on the list, at first–it’s a good idea to review that list regularly and add or subtract people as you learn more. I know of two agents who closed up shop mere months after they passed on my query.  The agent I signed with did not spring immediately to mind when I was making my list, but I took a chance on querying her. She represents me to this day.

(Look over a growing list of romance agents.)

4. Don’t over-query … or under-query.  Blind-copying the same query to 50 agents is a bad idea. Take the time to personalize each query letter, show that you’ve done your research, and explain why you think that agent might be interested in your work. On the other hand, don’t restrict yourself to sending out one query and waiting weeks before sending out another.  You’ll get quicker results if you write and send a batch of queries at once–I sent out about five at a time, which is still pretty conservative, and found an agent within a year. And if you receive an immediate form rejection, don’t despair–send out another query!

(Why you should only query 6-8 agents at a time.)

5. Familiarize yourself with social media. If you aren’t already familiar with social media tools like Twitter and Facebook, educate yourself as quickly as possible–especially since most agents and editors will be using those tools too.  Likewise, give some thought to what kind of website and/or blog you’d want to have as an author, and then start creating it. Having your website in place will save you a world of time when you do break through to an agent or editor, not to mention how much of an advantage it will give you when you finally sell your book! Be careful and discreet about what you say on social media, though, because it can come back to haunt you. Try not to post or tweet anything that you might have to apologize for later.

(Building up your social media is all part of Creating Your Writer Platform.)

6. Never give up. Disappointment happens at every stage of the submission process, and all you can do is roll with the punches. As of this writing, my first novel, which secured me my agent’s representation, is still without a home. I brooded. I moped. I doubted myself and my chances of ever being published. Then I parked my backside in a chair and finished my second book. Waltz with a Stranger sold within three weeks, and will be published on December 4, 2012. My third book, A Song at Twilight, is scheduled to be released in October 2013.

7. Try not to compare yourself to other authors. There will always be someone with a more famous agent, a more prestigious publisher, and a bigger advance. But their success takes nothing away from you and yours. When you land that agent, that offer, or that deal, take the time to celebrate. Laugh, scream, cry, sing, dance, pour yourself a glass of bubbly, treat yourself to a great meal out or some other indulgence. You’ve accomplished something that many writers only dream of, and it’s a victory worth savoring.

GIVEAWAY: Pamela is excited to give away a free copy of her novel to a random commenter. Comment within 2 weeks; winners must live in Canada/US to receive the book by mail. You can win a blog contest even if you’ve won before. (UPDATE: KathyTrueman won.)



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11 thoughts on “7 Things I’ve Learned So Far, by Pamela Sherwood

  1. Mariaa

    Absolutely loved this post! Number 2 was exactly what pushed me into writing my first book, but I hadn’t realized it until reading this. I can say without exaggeration that I needed to read all seven of these today. Thanks for the great advice! You can just do your homework at this writing service.


  2. Debbie

    Your time travel focus, regardless of which direction, puts the reader in the story. Whether it’s romance or science fiction…I’m intrigued.

  3. Katie

    Ditto to what KathyTrueman said! I have a Facebook account, but I created it when I was a young pup in college. And I have a blog, but mostly I just babble on it. Thanks Pamela for taking the time to share with us! (I still think #7 is impossible…)

  4. mhs546

    This is a really helpful list! I’m currently sitting here fiddling away at a novel–guess I should move on to the next step! Thank you for your insight.

  5. vrundell

    Thanks Pamela for your story. It’s always important for writers to remember that a manuscript is never “finished.” It can ALWAYS be tweeked–it’s just a matter of deciding enough is too much and moving on. And, being practical is better than being perfect 99% of the time.
    I wish you the best with the books.
    Veronica 🙂

  6. T.L. Cipuzak

    Very useful tips! It took me many years to get over the first one you mentioned. Gotta “love” the I’m-having-heart-palpitations-thinking-about-setting-this-writing-loose feeling. Gah! Thank goodness I’ve been able to push past that.

  7. Rachel29m

    Great post. Sometimes the most famous agent is not necessarily the right one. The connection between the agent and the writer is crucial and you need someone that believes in your work and is willing to continue representing you even when the first book doesn’t sell. I don’t see the star agent doing that.
    Raquel36m (at) gmail (dot) com

  8. KathyTrueman

    Even if #5 fills me with horror, this is a practical list which at the same time shows respect for the delicate emotions (i.e., stark fear) of inexperienced writers. The first item and the last two items in particular gave me heart. Thanks for taking your time to share this with us.

  9. jackiegillam@frontier.com

    Dear Pamela: Sometimes it is refreshing to hear words of encouragement from a stranger. I am sure as your fame grows your first book will be picked up. The agent world often seems too vague with agents representing so many types you wonder where you really fit in. But I believe every pot has its lid and sticking to it is the answer. Congratulations and thank you for the advice. Warm regards, jacqueline gillam fairchild


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